Strength in cord of three strands             

Ecclesiastes 4:12: “Though one may be overpowered, two can defend themselves. A cord of three strands is not quickly broken.”

The U.S. Army understands the principle that one may be overpowered, but that two can defend themselves. In basic combat training, you are immediately paired up with a battle buddy. The drill sergeants will come down on you hard if you don’t know where your “Battle” is at. In a very sarcastic tone and stern look on their face, the drill sergeant will say, “Hey there Hero, where’s your battle buddy? You don’t know? Just drop!”

The Army wins or loses on the battlefield because of its tactical, operational and strategic ability to outmaneuver the enemy. At its core, the Soldier fights in two to five-man size units — never one.  

If you’re married, you know also, that you have to be united in your marriage. Trying to do married life with or even without kids while not in unison is a miserable thing. It simply doesn’t work. Usually, divorce is the outcome. Why? Either the temptations of the evil one or our own selfish flesh takes over our desires and we inherently live in conflict with our spouse.

When it comes to strength, more is better. Therefore, while two are able to defend themselves, three is better yet. Everyone knows that adding a third person to the marriage is impossible. Three is not company (unless you are thinking of the 1970s sitcom with John Ritter). The third strand is God.

When the Lord is in our marriage, we are “a cord of three strands.” Anyone who knows the word of God and believes in Jesus knows this already. The question we must reflect upon then is “how am I actively dependent upon him in my marriage?” We cannot make assumptions. Satan doesn’t. Being a cord of three strands means praying, worshipping, reading and trusting the Lord hand in hand with your spouse. When you face a difficulty, together turn to the Lord. He is your third strand. Depend on it!

By Chaplain (Lt. Col.) Scott B. Koeman

TACOM Chaplain